The Ultimate Cheating Boyfriend Test

Everyone, at some point in their relationship, may have suspicions that their significant other is cheating. This is normal and doesn’t necessarily prove anything. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: when you have concerns in your relationship, especially if they’re strong enough to warrant suspicions of infidelity, the best thing to do is sit down and talk with your significant other. No relationship, no matter how it starts, can last without trust and communication, and ultimately, you will have to rely on these relationship bedrocks to see you through.

However, that being said, when you do have doubts about your relationship, especially it’s fidelity, it’s sometimes easy to let your emotions get the best of you. For that reason, it may be helpful to have a guideline of sorts to help you understand exactly what behavioral cues are setting of your suspicions and how valid or invalid they are. One way to do this is to sort through a test, or more specifically, a cheating boyfriend test. Using this test as a general map can help you not only locate your suspicions but also makes it easier to plan a relationship rescue discussion with the one you love. Think carefully about your responses and do your best to pinpoint your answers accurately. Understand that these questions are merely instruments that you can use as a way of rating the health of your relationship, and that no amount of questions can take the place of couples therapy or even a thoughtful communication session with the person you care about. Ask yourself the following questions:

1.) Has your boyfriend become distant, insensitive, or increasingly irritable lately? Cheating is stressful, even for the cheater, and this increased pressure can make a boyfriend less focused on being loving and more focused on covering their tracks.

2.) Has your boyfriend’s appearance or personal tastes suddenly changed? Anyone, upon entering a new relationship, is likely to alter something about his or her routine or style. If the change is dramatic or especially sudden, something may be up.

3.) Have you noticed “off” boyfriend behavior? Your boyfriend used to be the sole of punctuality. Now he’s always late. His work has suffered. He seems distracted or generally out of sorts. All of these can be indicators that something more suspicious is going on.

4.) Has your relationship dynamic shifted? In other words, has fighting increased or become below-the-belt? Do you feel like communication is less effective or has it halted altogether?

5.) Does your boyfriend seem less interested in maintaining the relationship or making it better? Although few boyfriends love to sit down and discuss a relationship’s status, a boyfriend who is entirely adverse to the idea or unwilling to put in necessary relationship “work” may be looking for an easy way out.

6.) Have friends noticed changes in your boyfriend or commented on your relationship? A good friend is normally one who doesn’t point out glaring flaws in your chosen beau. However, if your friends, or even your boyfriend’s friends, have remarked on changes in your relationship or shown concern, they may know something you do not.

7.) Are you unhappy in a relationship that you once found fulfilling? There can be any number of reasons for dissatisfaction in a relationship, but a sudden, unexplained shift in relationship tone, especially one that you feel directly, is a big warning flag you shouldn’t ignore.

If you’ve taken the cheating boyfriend test and found yourself with a majority of affirmative answers, you certainly have reason for concern. Does this mean that you’re boyfriend’s definitely cheating? By no means. There are any number of motivations that alter relationship dynamics, and on a simpler level, alter a boyfriend’s behavior. While it may be much easier to chock all these changes up to a boyfriend’s infidelity, you owe it to yourself to consider the alternatives.

Your boyfriend could very well be dealing with pressures at school or work or feeling the strain of financial stresses. He might be experiencing health issues or even dealing with a bout of depression. It’s very possible that Mr. Boyfriend may be hit with a sudden case of commitment phobia (women get it too!) or be concerned about marriage, moving in together, etc. And even on a most base level, your boyfriend could be having doubts about the relationship or (shock) you! So what’s a girl to do?

Well, you could wiretap his phone, interrogate his friends and family, and begin a stalking routine that would put the F.B.I to shame. Or you could opt out of suspicious craziness and sit the boy down to hash it out. Take heart. Relationships ebb and flow and a rough patch, though nothing to sneeze at, doesn’t mean a relationship is doomed. Taking the cheating boyfriend test may very well suggest that, well, your boyfriend is cheating, but it could also mean that your relationship needs a well-deserved tune-up. You be the judge.